In a hypothetical situation last week, colleague A and B were witnessed by many others, being rather unprofessional. Colleague A (aka CA) knows a lot of things about the organisation that others do not, and Colleague B (aka CB) was keen to get the goss. CB met with CA to talk about it. They did this rather indiscreetly, in a full glass plated office, for all the office to see. It was obvious that there goss to be dished and it made all very uncomfortable and uneasy. Emails started flying between the uncomfortable ones (aka uncomfyones), asking what the hell was going on and how pathetic CA and CB were.
As it turns out, CA (back at desk) started to read one of the uncomfyones’ emails about the atmosphere CA and CB created. CA was pissed to the max. Sent out a rather harsh email and the pressures of their job and how the information they know, they didn’t want to be privy to.
Met with silence, the uncomfyones decided to avoid all contact and proceed to work. CA cracked it today (hypothetically, of course), demanded to meet with us. They were met with declines, which infuriated CA further. Meanwhile, as usual, CB is nowhere to be found. This is pretty normal, when the shit hits the fan, CB gets out of there.
Anyway, CA cracked it today. The uncomfyones do not like confrontation and CA does. Bad match, right? CA lost and did not get to yell and carry on. There were no indiscreet meetings with indiscreet discussions. There was no satisfaction given to CA.
You see, CA is young, 25 and young. Idealistic and full of themselves. They are an over-achiever. They want to be in the know. They believe they should be in the know.
CB is 30ish, a cad, boyish, conniving, selfish and egotistical. He grins and people bow down before him. He likes to know the gossip. He’s an old gossip.
See the attraction?
This is what life can be like in hypothetical land. Political, conniving and unfaithful. You realise that you cannot trust anyone. This is a bad realisation. It’s lonely, but it’s a motto that I have lived by ever since beginning work. There’s a lesson to be learnt from this experience. Be careful of who you speak to at work, don’t say too much and don’t say anything that you don’t want others to know. It’ll always get back to them.
Remember, emails have bcc, people have prying eyes and you don’t have to tell the caller on the other end of the line that there’s someone else in the room.